distractions. distractions. distractions.
I'd say it's the most important element of survival. And I did my best to surround myself with as many things as possible. I bought mind-numbing games for my hand-held Nintendo DS (worked best to avoid those emo thoughts before finding sleep). I took every opportunity to go out and drink with friends, ignoring the cries of pain from my empty, tri-fold wallet. I even went to an old, forgotten arcade to shave off some precious hours on a Sunday.
I'm telling you, a good distraction to keep your mind off all that mental vomit is absolutely essential.
But despite all the video games, the 3:00 am beer fests, and the constant looping of Quantum Leap reruns... there is nothing quite like the distraction of flirting with a cute girl, who flirts back.
as much as I love you Scott Bakula
you can't beat the attention of a good woman
you can't beat the attention of a good woman
Remember when Tim Robbins in Shawshank is explaining to Morgan "Red" Freeman that "hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things". It's kinda like that.
Of course, this isn't to say that flirting results in anything serious. X doesn't HAVE to equal Y in order for it to have any meaning. However, it is comforting to know that (Holy shit!) there are actually other girls out there who are physically attractive and YES, have the potential to be really cool.
As innocent as it is, I still find a tinge of those giddy feelings I used to get with girls way long ago:
looking forward to the next letter/email, the next online conversation, a new picture posted, exchanging music recommendations...
Wow. Hmmm... that sounded a lot cooler in my head, but you get the idea. Internet crushes. -shrug-
She's short, can enjoy an alcoholic beverage, likes cartoons, cute girl-next-door look, witty. And is giving me the time of day? Wants to have a 5 hour conversation with me?? Who knew??
Did I mention she lives across the sea? Goddamn Weezer, why do you hurt so good??*
But I digress. My point is the fact that I am finding myself at a place where I can have an optimistic view of the future... other girls can exist out there that can fit all of these strict So@24 requirements (or even SOME of them). Even if it's something as simple as innocent flirtation.
Maybe I can get giddy again.
* if you got my reference before clicking on the link, then you too have the potential to be my next crush.
48 comments:
I am glad you are FINALLY figuring this out. You are right on about hope though. Without hope there is a dead end. Unfortunately, nobody can instill hope in yourself, except you. I am glad you are seeing the light at the end of the very very very long tunnel. Flirt your heart out!
Internet crushes can be fun, I know what you mean about looking forward to the next email. I love the "mental vomit" what a good phrase lol
Goddamn it! I just posted new pictures and I live across the sea, but I'm not short. So that means you don't have an e-crush on me. :(
In other news, maybe it's so fun to flirt with her because she is far away--makes it less risky and allows you to be a little more open. Maybe?
24, why can't the tall girls get some love? We love the shorties!
Good luck with your new girl.
Three reasons why I know we will be friends for a long time:
1. Tosh :) I got it.
2. Nothing (besides football for me) beats a Sunday marathon of "Quantum Leap". I had the biggest crush on Bakkula when I was 9...still do actually.
3. "Shawshank Redemption" is one of the greatest movies ever. "You either get busy livin', or you get busy dyin'."
Red was here.
YAY! And awhh that is the cutest weezer song, I know it well.
Distractions really are the best thing after a breakup! I'm still trying to keep myself distracted...especially after a text from the ex...I just don't get men. They don't want to be with you but won't let go.
**big grin**
You are properly mental...
I think the little lassie sounds like a happy diversion and I'm going to secon Chards on points 2 and 3. I've seen every episode of Quantum Leap and there were 3 months in college where I think I fell asleep to the Shawshank theme every night. Mostly to keep myself away from the emo music so there's that.
Nothing like a crush with summer coming...yay for you:)
Nice Weezer reference--i've always had a soft spot for that song, esp the ending.
Distractions are the best. I watched the TV show "Spaced" over and over again to distract me. It allows me to be bitter and I like being bitter.
Regardless, I'm glad you're in the "moving on" stage. It feels good, right? Knowing that there is hope and that you'll be okay. Because there is...and you will be!
How're you going to break the news to your DS? When I stopped playing MarioKart and Pokemon on my less frequently, I think mine got depressed. But it really is a great source of mindlessness before one hits the sack at night.
And Weezer. . . is awesome.
Good luck with everything :)
Dammit, if I got *all* the references (QL, Weezer songs, etc.) does that make me a super-mongo-big geektrix? *hangs head in shame*
;)
You're still at the exciting phase of dating. I miss that phase. Good luck!
I love crushes too. Crushes and first kisses.
That's awesome! Sometimes optimism is the hardest thing to achieve after a break up :(
"there is nothing quite like the distraction of flirting with a cute girl, who flirts back."
*sigh*
is it me, is it me??
wait, I'm not short, not witty and don't live accoss the sea.
Humph!
Define "sea."
I say eat more soup.
well, kali just made that way too easy. Congrats, you two. Can we all be voyeurs and watch this develop here in blogland? Cool...
Blackdog's lost it. Don't mind him.
i feel like bloggers are an entity of their own.
seriously there are only a very few people that can recall the wondrousness of quantum leap, shawshank redemption AND weezer all at once. love it.
i think it cool as hell that you are letting yourself have this crush. because honestly, that is the first step in starting anything new.
I am going through the very bad hurt part right now. I HATE IT! I am trying to be distracted but even crushing on a new boy ain't working. But the no eating thing is really starting to piss me off cuz' I love me some food. This too shall pass, I'm guessing!
Hope is sometimes all we have, I went out and hooked up a lot after my last relationship went downhill. Granted, the ex was not happy about it, but it still made me feel better to know that there are others out there.
I forgot to say, I'm down with the first 2, but not a big Weezer fan. Shawshank is one of the best movies ever. My fave QL's were when he had to be a woman. Yes, of course I'm immature, but hairy men in drag still crack me up...
It feels good, no? Just when you think the rain will never stop, the sun comes out. And it is so warm.
Crushes are the best.. especially summertime crushes!
I do believe that was darn cute...
So what? You've been writing this blog for HOW long and getting THIS many comments from fabulous, flirtatious women and NOW you realise you might, just might have a chance with the opposite sex?
I beat you with a stick!!!
internet crushes are the best because if suddenly either party loses interest you can change your name and move on.
also, did the national man council screening of 'the shawshank redemption' just happen? i swear ive read/heard more references in the past 2 weeks than i have in the past 2 months.
Aw. So sweet. And you know, even if said crush is a pajillion miles away, it still might happen.
My curiosity has peeked. Must know who crush is.
It's always good to know there's a person (or persons) out there you would want to date. Hope is a good thing.
i fainally caught up on all your posts. sounds like you've been having some fun. i'm hoping for some girl distraction myself. though, not really distraction and penis playing with. you know. the good stuff.
Totally agree! Distraction is a veryy good thing and can get you through most anything.
And yes! I have the potential to be your next crush due to my knowledge of Weezer :)
Sooo who is the lucky girl??
great blog.. reading it from the beginning so I have some catching up to do.
Oh, my blogging convention friend....
you're talking to someone who hasn't had a relationship in years and has a bleak view of the future.
You just gotta keep struttin along. It'll happen.
Those giddy feeling really do rock. We don't let ourselves enjoy them enough.
I agree that distractions can be great, especially when you feel like your heart has been ripped out, stomped on and then handed back to you (or thrown at you). Great post!
I KNEW it was Kali. And then she confirmed it. Yay!
You know we're all gonna be live blogging from your wedding.
Slow down - douchie assumes we'll be invited, but I hope she's right. I always wanted to drink Guiness at the source - I assume they give free samples there...
my DS has been helping me keep my sanity too.
you like weezer, the DS and more? maybe you're my new crush!
If 5' 3" is considered short, and enjoying a drink starts with the crisp sound of the pop-top, we might be in luck.
I live between 2 rivers. That's kind of over the sea, right?
I've got your letter, you've got my song!
The googly tummy feeling that you get when you meet an eventual potential is the best. They should bottle it up and sell it. Guaranteed winner.
Wow...
Quantum Leap... Dude... u made me feel old now! lol
You are absolutely right... there is nothing better than flirting and being flirted back... I kinda miss that part of being single!
And BTW, good luck!
Hey, nice new profile pic there, blue eyes! Somewhere, there is a girl totally into short asians with blue eyes and big watches. You just have to find her....
You totally reminded me of TB in this one, seriously. He described himself as "giddy" in the first week of "us." I hope it works out... and even if not, I think this'll tide you over until the next crush. There is hope!
We're actually in very similar boats . . . I'm 24 and single again after a long term relationship, including 3+ years of cohabitation, and it is pretty interesting. This was a nice post to read. :)
Thanks for all your lovely comments - I'm shit at netiquette and hardly ever acknowledge them at the time but they're well appreciated and it is pretty damn awesome to find a male fan of the BSC. The Logan Bruno: on the fringe, slightly embarrassed, yet secretly lovin' it.
i didn't get the references without clicking on the links )-:
methinks you have an internets crush on my blogging big sis? a little someone you call babs, maybe?
lol...i could be way off base. but i like to guess at these sorts of things because, um, apparently i live vicariously through other people.
So I admit, I have yet to read all of your archives.
But... amen. Yes. The paragraph you thought sounded better in your head is oh so true with the right friend/person. Online flirting can get pretty incredible WITH the right person. And whether it amounts to anything or not it does give hope about the opposite sex... if you are single.
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