I throw my backpack on my bed like I always do when I get home from a long day at the rat races. I have no clean clothes from my return back home, so I set our quarters for laundry. I'm getting tired of my Best of America cd, so I make a play list and prepare to burn it.
Toss some bread in the toaster, crack open a Progresso's Chicken Gumbo and plop myself in front of the boob tube to watch Jeopardy. I draw a crude scoreboard to keep track and taunt Leo about my amazing knowledge of the natural world and how he is, "going down."
Suddenly, my phone vibrates. A number I don't recognize.
So@24: Hello?
Mystery Call: Hi.
...
...
So@24: Uh. Hi.
Mystery Call: -nervous chuckle- Hi.
My eyes bulge and I look over to Leo panicked. "What!? What!? Who is it!?" he mouths to me. No time, I b-line it to the front door.
I haven't heard from her in almost a year and at 6:52 pm PST, she calls me out of the blue.
We both admitted that we were nervous and our hands were clammy. But we calmed down after a few minutes and fell right back into place. The obvious question that people keep asking me is, "why now?" but I didn't question her on why. I guess I was too excited just to talk to her.
We caught each other up on what we've been doing the past year. Jobs, what our friends were doing, plans for the new year, etc. And after exactly 3 hours and 29 mins, her phone battery started to tell her it was time to get off.
Lynn: I hope you don't get the wrong impression about this phone call, I don't want to set you back or anything...
So@24: No no no! Absolutely not. Trust me.
Lynn: Well, you have my number now. But no drunk dials! -laughs-
So@24: I think I'm past that stage. Don't worry, I'm not going to barrage you with calls or anything. Just call me when you feel like it.
Lynn: Okay.
So@24: Alright, bye.
Lynn: Bye.
I went back inside and tried to recap for a very stunned Leo. I popped a couple sleep aids (who could fall asleep after that kind of high?) and went to bed.
I never got a chance to answer Final Jeopardy. My mix never got made. My clothes are still in a crumpled mass next to the washer.
I'm at work in the same clothes I wore yesterday. And I'm cool. I'm calm. I'm collected.
Your Boy!
- So@24
- Los Angeles, CA, United States
- After 6 years of dating only one girl, I found myself single at 24 (now 26) and tackling the dating scene for my first time. These are my adventures, my mishaps, and stories of triumph... Lordy it's rough.
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- Lynn (66)
- Jack (41)
- Beth (36)
- sex (35)
- I'm a drunk bastard (30)
- emo shit (21)
- growing up (21)
- theories (19)
- Crazy Janice (18)
- Caitlin (14)
- so this is online dating (12)
- Bree (10)
- UCLA hunnies (10)
- I Love My Friends (8)
- Jenny (7)
- RealBeth (7)
- Dr. So (6)
- my ex-girlfriend's mom (6)
- Leroy (5)
- Sherry (5)
- Taken from the Archives (5)
- Amber (4)
- The Nurse (4)
- So and Leo's Euro Trip (3)
- Violet (3)
- dreams (3)
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26 comments:
WOW. WOW. WOW.
You guys talked for over 3 hours?!? Did you ask about her current? Does she know you still talk to her mom?
I hope this doesn't screw with your mind too much.
Oh my gosh! That is very big news. I'm so eager to hear how this all progresses. Probably you are, too. :)
You ever think she's just fucking with you? Messing with your emotions?
Appreciate the past, but onward and upward.
These are the words of one very very wary roommate.
Oh, that is the worst. I hate-slash-love that moment of getting back in contact. My most significant ex pops up every once in a while and it's weird all over again every time.
Not sure totally where you're at, as I'm a new reader, but let me be the voice of Distance yourself again for a while... you know she's okay, there's no reason to be in regular touch. I think that make things easier... or at least, it does for me.
Wow indeed. I kind of agree with the ex, do you think she's just messing around with you? Hopefully not, but don't get your hopes up too high. But hey at least you're en route to a normal relationship again right? ?
Did she just end it with someone? I've done that (hangs head in shame). Just wanted something comfortable again. Be wary.
oh my.
Her mom TOTALLY told her about the two of you hanging out. And probably told her you looked good. I've been in this situation (on both sides), and I think it's safe to say that if YOU don't drunk dial HER anytime soon, I'm betting she'll be calling you. Maybe not in the next month, but definitely for sure. Anyone who calls their ex out of the blue after so long is definitely not over it.
That's my guess at least.
Well first of all.
Extra man points to you for not freaking out.
Second of all, I'm with Leo on this.
Approach with caution.
Well, I do not think she is messing with you. I think she is having second thoughts. :) Did I tell you I am psychic? I predict XMas invite. IF you DON'T call her first.
It's HER mother not letting you go, which means you must be a great guy.
And now is when things start to get really interesting.
I don't know...this whole thing leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Don't let her string you along. She can't have her cake and eat it too. If she reads your blog she knows that you are still hung up on her- and she shouldn't have called. I am just worried about you. Be careful.
How long do you think it took her to muster up the courage to call your ass? This is sort of exciting, eh? Good Luck with the impending mind trip, this one will throw you for a loop I'm sure..how could it not?
Oh, and if this happened last night- All 3 women guessed "Mary" or something for Final Jeopardy...The topic was "Women in History"
It's always a total mind fuck to hear from an ex out of the blue. It took three years for Pub Guy and I to be friends, and I'm still a little mean to him.
This makes me worry for you! If you can be JUST friends, proceed with caution. But remember, sometimes it's better to leave the past in the past.
Good luck, no matter what!
Congrats, I guess, but like others have said don't get too caught up in this moment. It is hard to move ahead when you're living in the past.
Dude. From the way you're describing your call with her, it sounds like you're still a bit hung up on her. Be careful, is all I'm saying.
Not that you would listen to me, fuck up that I am.
awww I feel like that DOES set you back though
I think you just need to take it for what it is...a phone call. Don't read into what it means because it doesn't matter what she is feeling or what her motivations for the call were. You can definitely appreciate the contact, but as our friend leo mentioned, it's time for someone new :). Also, I love you.
i dont think she's trying to string you along. she's prolly just starting to get to the point where she wants to be kinda friends again. but is afraid of jumping back into a friendship.
I agree with badlittlegoodgirl tho. her mom definitely told her she saw you.
I always wonder what my first convo with the ex will be like. Sounds like you handled it quite well!* Congrats!
*Minus the fact that you are a minor wreck today, that is to be expected.
whoa! so now what?
Holy. Shit.
And by holy shit, I mean how did you do that?
Like a story with great pacing, this just got interesting. Granted, I'm over 3 years late to the party, but this post warrants a comment.
P.S. I'm the guy who commented yesterday on Janice being the "villain". I'm J.C., nice to meet you. Love your blog.
JC, love that you're starting the journey. Keep me posted on your progress!
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